In response to my previous post on introverts Debra commented that she had trained herself to do small talk. I was thinking about this while on my run - when I wasn't moaning and grumbling to myself about how stupid this whole running idea was - and it occurred to me that there must be something on t'internet that teaches you to small talk. And of course there were plenty of options.Whomever you're talking to you'll find a guide for it. Whether it's a girl, customers, strangers, or even friends, we have advice for you. And even more books on the subject.
On the whole though it's probably a bit too much effort at my age. I don't want to make friends. If the pandemic has shown anything it's that I'm okay in my little world with Husband and George for company.
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I know I'm an introvert, but I disagree about the importance of making new friends as we age. That's precisely when we need to make them! Getting out there and circulating and socializing keeps aging seniors young, vibrant and helps to ward off isolation and depression. All the successful-aging seniors I've known have done precisely that -- kept up their socializing and were, moreover, cheery and pleasant to be around as well. And small talk is central to that because it's how you break the ice with new people down at the senior centre, or bridge club, or church or wherever you go to meet new people.
I suppose so, Debra. Lockdown has made me even more anti-social than usual!
I'm an introvert but I'm an expert at small talk. I don't like it and it exhausts me but I can do it.
And I agree with Debra, that as we age having friends is essential, but the truth is I have very few.
At least the website gave me some ideas for small talk but by the time I get to meet people again I'll have forgotten it.
Small talk is very hard for me as I tend to be a bit shy and quiet. Same with making friend (as opposed to meeting acquaintances). Hard to do.
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