I recently read a blog post that upset me. The writer had determined to focus on his faults, to be aware of them in order to be a better person. 'I should do this,' he wrote.
I would like to ban the word 'should'. Maybe that's a bit extreme; there are times when it is appropriate. But, I believe, not when we 're talking about living a Christian life.
Jesus tells us that his yoke is easy and his burden light. If that's true then 'should' and 'must' don't play a part. What I believe is that Jesus walks alongside us and helps us. He says, 'We can do this, you and me.'
He doesn't say, 'You're such a bad person. You've done that thing again. I despair of you. You must stop doing that. You should try harder.'
Yes, we need to be aware of our faults but to see them as Jesus does through a veil of love. He knows how weak we are. For goodness sake he made us with all the potential flaws, our selfishness, our egos. He knew that Peter would deny him three times but he still loved him and used him mightily.
I think all Jesus wants from us is to be aware of our failings and want to change. He can do the rest.